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As for the choice part, if you think about it, I mean really think outside the box (not your own little bubble), there is living proof that some people will stay in a relationship, a hetrosexual relationship for years, even have kids, then eventually say "I'm gay, I want a divorce, knew I was gay..... no no I'm gay end of story".
This is what I would call, desire, sexual urges and then DECIDING to give into them by CHOICE and I'd be more likely to say that was a midlife crisis because some have even gone back to their wife/husband some time down the line.
Yup and there are many many more who eventually come out and decide to stop living the lie and a life of incompleteness or unhappiness or peer pressure ... this is what i would call being honest with themselves......the majority that do come out do not return to a heterosexual relationship. This idea people have with the sexual act re homosexuality is very misunderstood. Do you think just because your with your partner you have to be banging like rabbits all the time ? of course not. why then would you assume its purely a sexual thing ? actually it isnt. If you assume it is then you need to think further inside the box such as companionship, partnership, understanding, love and all the rest of teh things that make up a relationship.
I know they wouldn't choose to have these feelings and desires, I agree with that....... what I'm saying is I think some people use the sex part of it to fulfil a desire or fantasy and therefore choose to be gay or bisexual for a short period of time (hate that expression, your either gay or straight).
There is no harm in this, I am not a detractor of gays, I am simply saying if biologically a gay person is engineered to be gay, then they are not normal (biologically), again no harm in that.
Most would know that otherwise society would accept it and they themselves would come out of the closet straight away and some would probably even choose NOT to be gay because of this even though they get them desires.
There are sexual hedonists everywhere so what ? there always has been & it has nothing special to do with being homosexual, in fact its mainly the hetrosexual ( straight ) people who pop in and out of the bisexual world. Trying things out if you will, it is not frequent for a homosexual to go bi for the taste
Biologically has nothing to do with what is "normal" or not, humans are made up of a lot more than just DNA, normal is a horrible word. Humanity is diverse. Anal sex has been used as a form of contraception forever, male homosexuality has in some ages been prevalent and also widespread. What is exactly normal ? according to who ? biologically those that picked the wrong hole did not reproduce, natural selection if you will. You can also see it in nature.
Some ( the majority ) are born that way, circumstance may or may not steer them into a hetrosexual relationship. Others will force it on themselves, some are just confused and lonely.... however in the main the high majority i have known have "always known" who they are inside.
I can give you plenty of examples of heterosexual men happy to stick it wherever. There are far more in that camp than sex crazy homosexuals I assure you.
Finally there is the matter of parenthood. There is no evidence to support the theory that a gay couple bringing up a child affects that child re their sexual behaviour later in life, there is plenty of evidence that sexual abuse scars and confuses that child as to what is expected or accepted. Again this abuse usually takes place in a heterosexual environment and you have to wonder had the father or male that are mostly responsible had a life where they could just be themselves and openly able to express their sexual preference another life would not be ruined because of suppressing their own.