Lol, you are absolutely right. You hear that women? Please abstain from being raped or molested. And while you're at it, gain the confidence to say no to a man you want to spend the rest of your life with, despite the possibility he may misconstrue your unwillingness as rejection. And for those of you who are married, but don't want children, absolutely don't have sex. It's clearly something you should abstain from because, of course, you don't need it in a relationship.
/sarcasm off
Willy, you have got to be kidding... or playing devil's advocate.
You cannot blame a child in the womb for killing the mother during birth. That is a self centered attitude and not logical. You cannot blame a deer for causing you to have an accident on the road because you decided to drive and it was in the way.
Here we are using the word, "child." It is a fetus and prior to that it is a zygote. Referring to it as a child infers it can walk out of the womb and live on its own. That is clearly not the case with the vast majority of abortions.
As to blaming the fetus for the death of your loved one, you have obviously never lost someone to murder/accident. Let's put this very clear in your mind. If my friend's wife had never become pregnant with that specific fetus, they likely would have lived together for another 50 years. Her life was cut short precisely because of the pregnancy and precisely because of an allergic reaction to the fetus.
Sure I don't blame the fetus, I don't blame anyone, but you can hardly expect a grieving new husband to be rational through such a tremendous loss. He never got to know this stranger that intruded into their relationship and then resulted in his wife's death. It's kind of silly to argue logic in such a case.
The fact that there are allot of irresponsible people does not relieve personal responsibility either. "Every one is doing it" is not a valid excuse.
I will refrain from posing personal experiences, but let me say that there are a lot of instances where you do just about everything to prevent an "accident," yet it still sometimes happens. Worse, sometimes you do just about everything, or you "believe" your partner when he/she says they did everything, but sometimes the partner lets you down. You're acting like "pregnancy" is the result of irresponsible action from both parties and that is just bullocks and a gross oversimplification.
But,
even if it were the case in every instance of pregnancy, it does not address the
real point, which is that a woman's life is in danger when she is pregnant. You are arguing that because one or both persons was irresponsible, the woman should be forced to risk her life and health while the man looks for another "chick" to impregnate.
Once again, until a man is equally in danger of death, of obtaining high blood pressure, preeclampsia, organ damage, premature birth / fetal problems, postpartum depression/suicide, cancer, heart disease, Rh incompatibility, kidney disease, isolation/alienation (loss of job, loss of education, loss of income, loss of friends, loss of family, abandonment), anemia, gestational diabetes, hyperemesis gravidarum, miscarriage, placenta previa, placental abruption, bacterial vaginosis, cytomegalovirus, GBS, HBV, listeriosis, toxoplasmosis, etc, and unless he plans to be directly involved in the rearing of the child or the care of the woman in case she is permanently harmed by the pregnancy, he should just butt out.
And let's not forget that the risk of complications rises significantly when you're under 20 or over 30. So, what we have here, in the U.S. and other countries, are a buttload of men who are not participants in the conception, who wouldn't step up to care for the child or care for the woman were she to be harmed by the pregnancy
(as demonstrated not merely by the high number of single-mothers, but also the actions and intentions of these same Men to remove healthcare, welfare, and WIC programs), but have the audacity to try and dictate that because a woman gets pregnant
(regardless of who, if anyone, was irresponsible), she should be forced to risk her life and health.