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As you all may already know, there are several debates on marriage at the moment; Same sex, divorce rates, child allocation, ect. But I want to bring up a debate on the evolving ethics and ever-changing concept of marriage. Sure, we once knew Marriage to be wedlock between man and a woman, but it's changing and there isn't anything anyone can do about it. But, what I want to talk about is Divorce and the sucess of marriages.
As we all know (looking at america), around 46% of marriages end in divorce, with 20% of those hurting one or both of the divorcees in some way. Now, from slight research, the divorce rate for families married in the earlier 20th century have ended in a lesser 20% range of divorces, if not less.
Now without further adue, here is what I am getting at: Our minds have been indoctrinated with the whole concept of "True Love" and a believed fact that Love and the way someone is will overcome money, financial security, and good health. Truth is, unless one or the other partner has enough to make 100,000 a year and are responsible, then the true love theory is utter bullcrap. I don't care who you are, friend of mine or foe, Love is equal to or less than an illusion. It's a mere offshoot of lulness and pride in posessing the heart and mind of another, a bond that can easilly be broken. IMO todays marriages end in divorce not because of who abuse their spouses, but because they are not good decisions. Men and women do not want to feel entrapped in a relationship if they lose their ability to care about the wellbeing, or atleast the emotions of their spouse. There are more important ideals to look at, such as the ability to maintain a stable economic climate for the family name, as well as the ability to keep calm and collect without inept idiocies and fablized fictions running the show; hince the conspiracy that true love is real. It's not. Again, GET OVER IT.
Now, in resolve to this, I'd like to open another chapter, arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are made by either the parents, or the couple at an early age, for the best financial benefit of the two to be wed. Why? Simple. Marriage would be a business agreement (and possibly a *love* coupling.) The point of it would be to marry off one with a bit of money to another who is financially stable and could support a family. Instead of having young "lovers" ending up marrying in Movie fiction fashion and making an attempt at a low wealth duet only to break apart in apathy towards one another and result in a catastrophe, there could be a family bondage and an arrangement to protect and prolong the togetherness of the couple, as a matter of fact, it is proven that arranged marriages are often more successful than their ordinary counterparts because of such reasons. There aren't any unnecessary datings and get-to-know yous before hand because you are brought up knowing the-who-you-will-be-with person the whole time, and you will be better off knowing what will be happening. Sure, if you are a party man then this ideal could be lame, but if you are looking to start a long-lasting and well-established family, and also love the person you will be with, arranged marriages do have their benefits.
Of course, that's just a few things about marriage, and they may be posted up already but they too are still up for debate.
As we all know (looking at america), around 46% of marriages end in divorce, with 20% of those hurting one or both of the divorcees in some way. Now, from slight research, the divorce rate for families married in the earlier 20th century have ended in a lesser 20% range of divorces, if not less.
Now without further adue, here is what I am getting at: Our minds have been indoctrinated with the whole concept of "True Love" and a believed fact that Love and the way someone is will overcome money, financial security, and good health. Truth is, unless one or the other partner has enough to make 100,000 a year and are responsible, then the true love theory is utter bullcrap. I don't care who you are, friend of mine or foe, Love is equal to or less than an illusion. It's a mere offshoot of lulness and pride in posessing the heart and mind of another, a bond that can easilly be broken. IMO todays marriages end in divorce not because of who abuse their spouses, but because they are not good decisions. Men and women do not want to feel entrapped in a relationship if they lose their ability to care about the wellbeing, or atleast the emotions of their spouse. There are more important ideals to look at, such as the ability to maintain a stable economic climate for the family name, as well as the ability to keep calm and collect without inept idiocies and fablized fictions running the show; hince the conspiracy that true love is real. It's not. Again, GET OVER IT.
Now, in resolve to this, I'd like to open another chapter, arranged marriages. Arranged marriages are made by either the parents, or the couple at an early age, for the best financial benefit of the two to be wed. Why? Simple. Marriage would be a business agreement (and possibly a *love* coupling.) The point of it would be to marry off one with a bit of money to another who is financially stable and could support a family. Instead of having young "lovers" ending up marrying in Movie fiction fashion and making an attempt at a low wealth duet only to break apart in apathy towards one another and result in a catastrophe, there could be a family bondage and an arrangement to protect and prolong the togetherness of the couple, as a matter of fact, it is proven that arranged marriages are often more successful than their ordinary counterparts because of such reasons. There aren't any unnecessary datings and get-to-know yous before hand because you are brought up knowing the-who-you-will-be-with person the whole time, and you will be better off knowing what will be happening. Sure, if you are a party man then this ideal could be lame, but if you are looking to start a long-lasting and well-established family, and also love the person you will be with, arranged marriages do have their benefits.
Of course, that's just a few things about marriage, and they may be posted up already but they too are still up for debate.