hot'n'sexy, tbh your being a bit stubborn, you don't know everything about duelling, some people apart from you are right sometimes.
Not dodging DOES double your aim, aim doesn't affect damage.
appearance mean the defender has less chance to hit
tactics mean the attacker has less chance to hit.
if your the attacker than its his aim - your appearance + his tactics
if your defended than its his aim +his appearance - your tactics
doing pure tactice with a soldier you are never going to die defending (99% of the time) because th attacker will have to pump appearance + other skills, so he will not have enough to overcome your tactics.
resistance duelling is pointless i think, rather pump into appearance so the defender can't hit me, so i don't get hurt, and can keep going, rather than resigning myself to be hit each round.